Practical, embodied guidance for shared clarity, repair, and relational maturity
Relational guidance sessions offer structured support for people in a committed bond with shared stakes. This may be romantic partners, best friends, housemates, business partners, or other constellations where the relationship itself matters and continuity is desired. The focus of these sessions is not on fixing individuals, but on supporting the dynamic between you. In these sessions, the relationship is the client.
People come to relational guidance at different moments. During conflict or rupture, in times of transition or decision-making, or proactively, to learn how to have conversations that are more regulated, honest, and sustainable over time. The aim is to develop relational capacity, not dependency. My role is to help you build a container you can continue to use together, without me.
These sessions are embodied and process-led. We begin by orienting in the body and nervous system before moving into content. The body is not an afterthought, but the primary guide for pace, safety, and connection. I facilitate the process, guard the container, and regulate tempo, so that conversations can move from reactivity toward contact, understanding, and agency.
Relational guidance is not mediation. All parties involved are expected to show willingness to participate, take responsibility for their part, and remain oriented toward repair rather than winning. When requests fall outside my scope of expertise, or when a dynamic asks for more structural or therapeutic support, I may suggest referral to a trusted professional if that better serves the process.
What we work with
Relational guidance sessions focus on building practical agreements and skills that support ongoing repair and communication. This may include:
- Learning how to stay regulated enough to remain in contact during difficult conversations
- Recognising when a conversation has turned into a competition for being seen or heard, and knowing how to pause and seek support or self-care
- Developing the capacity to understand the inner logic and experience of the other, without collapsing into agreement
- Working with emotional turn-taking, so it is clear whose experience the conversation is serving at any given moment
- Identifying each person’s strengths in the relational process and making them responsible for that part of the container, while remaining in dialogue together
Rather than solving issues for you, the work is oriented toward learning how to notice patterns, slow them down, and respond differently over time. People often leave with clearer language, increased relational capacity, and a felt sense of connection that can be returned to outside the session.
Scope and orientation
Relational guidance sessions are suited for people who are willing to engage with maturity and autonomy. This work asks for the capacity to reflect, to tolerate some discomfort, and to stay present with difference. It is not crisis intervention, and it is not a space where responsibility is outsourced.
Practical details
Relational guidance sessions are currently offered in person at my home venue Cordium in Nijmegen. Sessions take place in a 90-minute container. I am present as facilitator and guardian of the process, supporting the relationship to slow down, orient, and stay in contact, without taking sides or directing outcomes. The investment for a relational guidance session is €220.
Relational guidance sessions are offered by appointment. If this form of support resonates, you are welcome to reach out by sending me a message through Hipsy to inquire about availability. If you are unsure whether relational guidance is the right entry point, you are welcome to reach out to explore what form of support best fits your situation.